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Married women cheat because they are tired of loving their husbands who don’t equally love them back. They cheat because the husband expects a boy child after having girls only. Sometimes, a man wants a child and can not accept that he is the one with infertility problems. There is a large number of men taking care of kids that are not their own unawares. A woman simply solves this gnawing problem by sleeping with another man so she can have peace in her house.
One of my readers said that they never thought they would feel such physical attraction before. She cheated with her driver because her husband had been a selfish person who was only concerned about himself only. They were in a difficult and lonely place in their relationship. He put work first, friends next and family last and so she never felt like she was needed. She stayed at home with the kids while he worked . She started flirting with her driver which led them to sleeping together. They had this affair for two years and the husband only found out because her lover approached him and spilled the beans. He had become very demanding, crazy and tried to force her to stay with him. When he realised that he wasn’t getting what he wanted , he told the husband about their affair.
The way I see it; this forbidden relationship could have ended in death.
The woman had a driver for goodness sake!
I mean, they were obviously rich! Maybe its true that money can’t buy you happiness. Isn’t it weird though,that it’s usually the poor guys that are in-touch with their feelings. They always know what to say and when to say it.
A couple of years ago , I worked as an Administrator for this other small Real Estate company. As an administrator, I met a lot of people from different walks of life. There was one particular man who used to compliment me a lot whenever he came to pay his account. Since,one of my duties was to assist clients , they all had my personal number. I had knocked off early during the week when he sent me a message to say he liked me and wanted to see me later . I was shocked! This guy had some guts for sure!I mean , he knew that I was married, I had a ring to show for it and I had never entertained his compliments. After the message, he phoned and I quickly told him to stop calling and texting me. I let him know that I wasn’t interested in having an extra marital affair with him or any other person for that matter.
‘ I didn’t tell my husband’
I was scared that he would blow this out of proportion. Also, I feared that he would think that I had led him on and stop me from going to work. Lastly, I just thought I could handle this you know as a Millenial nothing is surprising anymore. I blocked his Watsap number. After a couple of weeks, he sent me another message with a different number.
Honestly, this guy had a death penalty wish.
I again blocked his number and just kept quiet about it. The next day, I found him waiting for me in the office ,very early in the morning. On that fateful day, my husband had accompanied me and I think he suspected something after he saw the guy stealthily getting out. I told him everything. He was angry with me for not telling him about this earlier. I forgot to mention that this guy was also married.
This happened during our happy times in my marriage. I felt that I couldn’t cheat on my husband then. I didn’t know that dreadful events awaited me in the future. This period of my life was dark and grey. Nothing could have prepared me for the taunting and tormenting questions I asked myself during this time.
Have I thought of cheating ?
Yea, sure! If you haven’t then you are a saint and deserve a crown. I wanted blood. I wanted to hurt him the same way he had hurt me.
Was I bitter? Like hell I was!
Am I still bitter? I don’t know hey. I’m a woman and I love and yearn for my partner like all of you do. I don’t know if it’s a weakness. I choose to count my blessings instead that’s why I choose to stay. I choose to count the positives and look past the negatives. Suffice to say that I actually love him. Honestly, I thought I didn’t . I thought that my feelings would vanish after my ordeal.
Do you know what I used to say back in my twenties before I got married? Well, I used to say that If I found out that my partner was cheating, I’d raise Hell. Hahahahaha. I don’t know where that bout of anger went to. I guess its easy to judge and comment about situations when you aren’t in them. Harder to do anything when the unexpected happens.
Mai Prince, you touched a nerve by cheating with a married man. I hope you will live past this gruesome experience and for your sake I hope you can forgive yourself.
In conclusion, married women cheat for almost the same reasons that single ladies do. Sometimes it is out of bitterness,to solve a problem(childlessness), financial issues , for attention , excitement and for variety as that is the spice of life and lastly, just to spite the partner.
Whatever the reasons, don’t do it!Well, if you do think of doing it , just end on thinking of it. Stop there!Be open to your spouse about any advances if any that you are getting from the opposite sex. Whatever is hidden,becomes dangerous. Find someone wise to talk to If you do feel like doing it. Your feelings are not always right, hey. Your children need both of you together and for the sake of sanctity in your life, work on what you got now . You can only make it the best thing ever! You’ve got the power !
Don’t say I didn’t warn you.